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Our nervous system is like an internal communication network, constantly scanning the world for signals of safety or danger. Most of the time, it operates quietly in the background, but when it perceives a threat, it can take over, shaping how we feel, think, and relate to others. The Autonomic Nervous System The autonomic nervous system (ANS) regulates involuntary functions such as heartbeat, breathing, digestion, and even pupil size. It has two main branches: Sympathetic Ne

During this year's Transform Trauma world conference in Oxford, Daniel Siegel (neuroscientist and author) said: “It looks like love is the fabric of the universe.”  At first listen, this sounded to me beautifully poetic, almost spiritual. But Siegel is speaking from decades of research into the brain, attachment, and human relationships. So what does it really mean? And why does it matter for our wellbeing, especially when we’re navigating trauma, stress, or disconnection? Wh

When we go through overwhelming experiences, it is not only our emotions that are affected. Trauma shapes how our brain works, how we...

Some words have a way of cutting straight through the noise, landing in the body before the mind even works them out. It was never yours...

Growth is often spoken about as if it is a straightforward path. Work hard, push yourself, and you will improve. But when we look more...

Why Thinking Alone Cannot Solve Anxiety We often subconsciously hold the belief that if we can just think enough, analyse enough, or get...

Sometimes I notice my internal voice getting louder during particular times in my life. When it is constant and narrating every moment of...

The phrase “The only constant in life is change”  is often attributed to the Greek philosopher Heraclitus. Though it may sound simple,...

Perfectionism is often misunderstood as simply the drive to do things well. In therapy, perfectionism shows up more as a survival...

The capacity to make decisions depends on feeling safe enough to tolerate uncertainty. Decision-Making Beyond Rationality Decision-making...

A smile is often read as a sign of happiness, warmth, or connection. Yet in clinical practice and research, it is clear that smiling does...

“I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to...

Psychological experiences are rarely confined to the mind. They are registered throughout the body in ways that can be subtle or...

The nervous system is wired for survival. When we encounter threat, our bodies instinctively move into protective responses: fight,...

In any close relationship, moments of misunderstanding, tension, or emotional distance are inevitable. Whether in therapy, family life,...

Healthy, connected relationships are built not just on shared values or practical compatibility but on the ability to be emotionally...

Stress is something most of us live with daily, often without realising how deeply it affects our bodies and minds. Whether you are...

In Buddhist psychology, the root of suffering is often described as grasping  - the clinging to what we want, the resistance to what we...

Why Is Anxiety Worse at Night? Many people find that anxiety intensifies at night; just as the world quiets down, the mind grows louder....

When people think of therapy, they often imagine insight, strategies, or healing from past wounds. But at its core, therapy is a...